The problem isn't that life is unfair – it's that you don't know the rules(businessinsider.com) |
The problem isn't that life is unfair – it's that you don't know the rules(businessinsider.com) |
Exactly, although we wouldn't be having this discussion because he wouldn't have had the platform to transmit his thoughts on the matter.
My own experience is that people who focus on successes and failures in terms of themselves and how they will deal with the environment next time, do well. Those who focus on how the environment limits them, will not do well relative to how others with less advantages will do.
If you think that life is unfair, it may be more productive to ask yourself "What am I missing here? What have I been told that doesn't square with how I see people act?" and then update your mental model accordingly. Once you build mental models that derive the rules from what people do and not what they say, you'll often find they can take you surprisingly far.
Really? World has more - or even proportionally more - cancer researchers, than it has supermodels? Or, putting it another way, the superstar cancer researchers make something comparable to supermodels?