Ask HN: How do work in a team that wont appreciate your help

3 points by iamthelord 7 years ago | 4 comments

I would like to understand how people try to be professional and not get affected when they help the teammates but not get appreciated publicly. Or am i delusional.

JSeymourATL 7 years ago |

Perhaps, you can take the lead on this by expressing gratitude first. Thank You

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sethammons 7 years ago |

Communication. Talk with them. Say you want to be helpful and would like feedback on help given, both good and bad. Let them know you thrive on public feedback and strive to do good enough to warrant that and crave feedback on your help given to achieve that. Also, you probably should talk to your manager about this first as they understand the team dynamic better than this random internet stranger. Also, be prepared to find out you are not as helpful as you think you are. It is entirely possible that the help you think you are giving is not well received. This would be a good personal growth opportunity if so. You require data, so solicit feedback.

cimmanom 7 years ago |

What’s your motivation for helping? Is it to gain recognition, specifically public recognition?

You may need to re-examine your expectations. In a healthy workplace, helpfulness is expected; unless you go extraordinarily above and beyond it’s not considered something that deserves calling out.

A private “thank you” for an assist, yes, absolutely. A public display of gratitude? I’d be interested to hear what makes you think that’s in order.

iamthelord 7 years ago | |

my motivation is just as they are mine teammate so its part of my job to be helpful without expecting things in return but i see them showing gratitude towards other team-mates and it kinda start to make me think.

I guess my help is not that life changing to warrant a public gratitude.