One day I had a very hard day in Germany, like you did, with people screaming, pressure etc. Being Brazilian, I'm used to people being nice and caring. A completely different picture here in Germany. I wanted to go back and say fuck it all.

I have chosen to breath a bit, think, chill. In those moments, we are basically being tested. If you are there, you are there for a reason, possibly it's an improvement in life for you, or a challenge. You need to make sure you stick on your head that this is your test, take it as a challenge.

The human mind and body has millions of years of improvements to handle CHALLENGES. We can really go through very tough shit, but you can only activate this mode if you take what you felt, this emotional response, and have a good and positive reaction.

Eventually you start to get over those problems and conquer some respect. But you can only do it, if you eat it up.

It's a bit like school. You get bullied, at some point you fight, you beat one up, the other 5 fuck you up. Then eventually you start to handle those problems and even can come out on top of it. But only if you fight.

Think about the other possibilities, stay on this company 1 year and find another job. There will be other screamers on the other job as well, but keep shovelling shit until you get what you want.

Even if you leave your current job, nothing guarantees that the next one will be better, and it might sound easy to leave everything and go back to your home country, but you will miss a lot by living in the new place for just a short time, the best thing I can think of is to try to talk to your manager and tell them that you are not happy about the way that they communicate with you, and even if you are performing badly that they should inform you about that and what you need to do to improve in a less offensive way, some people will change their behavior once they are confronted, hopefully that will make them treat you better in the future.

it is hard to offer any advice without any more information, if it is only your manager/team then maybe consider switching to a different team, if it is a company-wide thing then probably it is best to leave, check you current visa/status and see if it is easy to change jobs, if not then think(with a clear and calm head) about whether you can stick with your current job until you can change it or not, and what any decisions you make now will mean down the line.

one last advice if you decide to stay with it, being in a bad workplace will affect you mentally and that might have an affect on your life and relationships outside of work, try to minimize that and keep all of this at work.

With these things it's hard though, try to keep a record of what happens and try to not participate in it.

Depending on how widespread it is. Talking to HR might work, wherein it helps if you can take a couple colleagues with you who have had the same happend to them. (so it's not just you)

In Holland for example there are state law offcies who give advice and help out with these kinds of things. They know what your situation is and how it can be handled best. Lawyers offices might also have free first meeting to help you and provide you with some context.

You seem to have a hard time with this. I've been is a very similar position. What I would advice is you talk to you GP and get appointments with psychologists. This will also protect you later if things get worse and you don't wanna show up at work anymore. Being sick at some, with a psychologist treatment will also make sure they can't fire you. and then it's a bit of a waiting game perhaps.

Anyways, feel free to message me and I can help out. I went through a similar situation and it really messed me up. I would like to make sure it doesn't get that bad for other people.

Why did you travel 10000km for a job? Is it just for that job, or did you travel to that place because you want to be there and you picked this job? Can you go back.

So many questions. Maybe tell us a bit more about the situation and you'll get some better thought out responses in return. Otherwise it is guesswork.

I see you are giving some more information in the thread, but it would be good to hear a lot more. Do it in a way that protects anonymity of course.

Someone shouting at you is bad, and it's a red flag for me to think about quitting* but not necessarily enough by it's own to quit a job.

* Because even if it is a colleague not the boss, its an organization that has a culture where this is acceptable. And most likely it will happen again. And I don't have the zen abilities to let stuff like that go. infact it would ruin my physical and mental health. Workplaces where I am bullied are an instant quit for me, but thats based on a bunch of reasons that might not apply to other people.

Shouting is a sign of weakness on the part of your boss. Why he had a weak moment? There might be dozens of reasons big or small and we certainly can't, but maybe you can put how it happened into context a bit. Maybe your boss had a bad day or was hangry, maybe he is under some heavy professional or private stress, maybe he just got some really bad news just before this happened.

In any case, this is a total no go, and if I were you, I'd draw a line. I personally have a three strike policy if someone treats me extremely unfairly. If it happens the first time it may be annoying, but maybe I also didn't get the full picture. I'll tell the person that what happened made me extremely uncomfortable and that I need to know the context of why it happened. I will also tell the person on that first occasion, that if it happens a second time its on them and the third time we're done and I'll show no regret or mercy in cutting ties or taking appropriate action against their behavior.

This system helps me to stay calm and focussed if stuff happens as I know already how it will play out and I don't worry about the future that much.

I don't know your context, but if you're a software engineer who was hired at a company 10k away be aware that you're on the long end of the stick here. You will most likely find employment again - and hopefully know what to look out for the second time. Do not be afraid to ask direct questions, I would say that is much more socially accepted in Western Europe (most of all in Germany) than in Asian cultures - as far as I'm aware of, please correct me if I'm wrong.

Godspeed and if you want someone to talk to, feel free to reach out (mail in profile). I'm a good listener.

In those regions the feedback scale is shifted as follows:

1. No complaints: Good work done

2. Minor insults: acceptable work delivered

3. Heavy insults on personal level: delivered work should be enhanced

4. Person stops talking to you: delivered work is insufficient

If they are just jerks, well, maybe you can tough it out for a year.

I know you have traveled far but trust me in retrospect everything will make sense. Just act smartly and not emotionally. But i understand the anger i would get if i am shouted upon.

Some cultures are more into this and they value straightforwardness above all else, even if that means a heated yelling match. The expectation is that you yell back (if needed). This would be expected and not considered weird or unacceptable

Looks like you knew this was coming (unless the friend in the other post was you)

I know this could be hard given how your management treats employee, but the best thing you can do is make sure you bring this up in next one on one. See how the response is from the manager. If he takes it personally, dont even bother trying to give more feedback.

Changing teams within the organization can be an option, else best case would be travel back 1000KM :(