I Don't Date on LinkedIn

sbilstein 5 years ago |

I met my fiancé unintentionally on LinkedIn. She reached out as recruiter to try and get in touch with HR at my company and we both had gone to the same university at the same time. She also included a link to her music in case I was interested.

I responded saying I had no idea how to help her as a software engineer but that I was surprised we hadn’t crossed paths. I said that I too was a musician and shared a link to some recording I made.

We started emailing due to mutual interest in concerts and our social meetup turned into a date.

It wasn’t intentional but it worked out :)

goldcd 5 years ago | |

I like to think that she didn't go to your university, only added her music after reading your profile, and is currently playing the long game - what better way to network with your colleagues, than a wedding?

(or congratulations)

moralestapia 5 years ago | |

Glad to hear your story.

I'm on the same boat nowadays :)

Minor49er 5 years ago |

This site isn't specific to LinkedIn. You can fill it out with anything apparently, even triggering an SSL certificate error if you try to politely warn people on this very site that you are not currently interested in a nerdy, yet romantic relationship: https://hacker.news.reader.idont.date/on.Hacker.News

dieters 5 years ago | |

That's because I'm not allowed to have a generic certificate for ..domain :( (author here). I'm also a C++ programmer for a living, and this was originally just a home project for trying to self-learn how publishing pages work.

dieters 5 years ago | | |

HN ate my asterisks. I meant I can only have a certificate for [anything].idont.date, but not for more subdomain levels.

master-litty 5 years ago |

https://milady.idont.date/unless.you.are.on.a.Christian.Mine...

Fun idea :) It doesn’t handle some typical characters well though, like apostrophes.

tdeck 5 years ago |

Looks like this Onion article has come true:

https://www.theonion.com/area-man-still-searching-for-hookup...

detaro 5 years ago | |

yep: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=24473294

some_furry 5 years ago |

I am deeply horrified at the mere prospect that this needed to exist at all.

paulgb 5 years ago | |

It wasn't built specifically for LinkedIn, it fills in the text from the URL: https://idont.date/people.who.indent.with.spaces

some_furry 5 years ago | | |

That's good to know! I guess I didn't scroll down far enough to see the form.

But still, the thought of being propositioned on LinkedIn makes me shudder in discomfort.

shadowgovt 5 years ago | | |

Some people don't get boundaries.

Also, some boundaries are socially fluid; some people think it's grossly inappropriate to use what is obviously a professional contacts site for romantic contacts, and some people (https://futurehappyself.com/2017/09/24/i-met-my-husband-on-l...) do not.

Minor49er 5 years ago | | |

I feel the same way about recruiters.

STRiDEX 5 years ago | | |

Finally https://sir.idont.date/in.hell

kodyo 5 years ago |

4chan inbound in 3... 2... 1...

geuis 5 years ago |

This really needs some context.

MattGaiser 5 years ago | |

A surprising number of guys ask women out on LinkedIn.

khazhoux 5 years ago | | |

And this page helps how?

shadowgovt 5 years ago | | |

It makes it convenient to create a boilerplate disclaimer that specific avenues of interaction (including LinkedIn) are inappropriate to ask for dates.

MattGaiser 5 years ago | | |

An attempt to shame those people perhaps? I’m not sure it helps. It is just fun.

some_furry 5 years ago | | |

That's disturbing.