I'm still one of those immature people who's really, actually friends with all my friends from high school, and see them all the time 20 years later

But they're all on facebook, and I'm not, so I always forget their birthdays. (No one reminds me it's going to be someone's birthday anymore, because it's assumed that everyone knows it). And they have to be friends with other people from our school who no one really wants to talk to. In fact, the reason I never got on facebook was to avoid those other high school acquaintances. Well, that and I had some work with their internal API back in 2008 and it was disgusting what kinds of derived metrics they were allowing any developer to get about people.

I'm not a believer that you have to let people go in order to move on with your life. I still talk to my exes all the time. We've moved on but we still love each other as people. On the other hand, do I want to see their newsfeeds every day? Fuck no.

Growing apart and losing touch is NOT human or healthy!

Sure, you might run into someone who says "it's totally normal" to lose touch with your best friend from high school, but don't listen to them. It's not normal or healthy to lose touch with the people you care about most. If your best friend from high school doesn't know what kind of cereal you like anymore, do something about that! Reach out!

And even if you think it's too late for you—that you've let things go too far—you have to remember that it's never too late. You can always try again. And while it might be hard at first, and it might take time, the effort will be worth it in the end. You're worth it.