I'm not sure this is a new paradigm or a new rethinking of love. Here's something written 2000 years ago.

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres."

This is only one of many descriptions from history that we can learn from. It seems that you're just awakening to a deeper understanding. Those of us already here, welcome you and hope we can continue this journey of self understanding together.