Why am I so distracted? any tips to focus

5 points by manojkumarsmks 2 years ago | 7 comments

I've been encountering a frustrating pattern whenever I attempt to engage in a focused activity, like reading a book. It seems that within just a few lines of reading, my mind starts buzzing with reminders of other tasks clamoring for attention – emails to send, ideas to jot down, and various errands to tackle. It's like a constant stream of distractions vying for my attention. In fact, even as I'm writing this message to you, I found myself pulled away mid-thought to have a conversation with my wife about something entirely unrelated. It's becoming increasingly perplexing because I can't pinpoint exactly why I'm feeling so easily distracted

Even with ToDo list or app, I have to remember to put into the list, I forget and the cycle repeats

reify 2 years ago |

Further:

The combination can only be this: that what prevents him being present in hope is memory, and what prevents him being present in memory is hope.

This is what it amounts to: on the one hand, he constantly hopes for something he should be remembering, his hope is constantly disappointed, but on its being disappointed he discovers that the reason is not that the goal has been moved further on but that he has gone past it, that it has already been experienced, or is supposed to have been, and has thus passed over into memory.

On the other hand, he constantly remembers something he should be hoping for; for in thought the future is something he has already taken up, he has experienced it in thought, and that which he has experienced is something he remembers instead of hopes for.

Consequently what he hopes for lies behind him, and what he remembers lies before him. His life is not backwards but back-to-front in two directions.

His life knows no rest and has no content, he is not present to himself in the moment, not present to himself in the future, for the future has been experienced, and not in the past, because the past has still not arrived.

Thus is he chased about, like Latona to the Hyperborean darkness, to the bright isle of the Equator, and cannot give birth and is constantly as though just about to.

Left to himself he stands in the wide world alone, he has no contemporaneity to attach himself to, no past he can long for, for his past has still not arrived, and no future he can hope for, for his future is already past.

GianFabien 2 years ago |

I went through a period like yours. Seems that there are various (unknown to me) factors that influence the severity of the condition.

What worked for me was:

1. make a decision to stick with one task at a time. But also have a pad at my side.

2. whenever a distracting thought strikes, jot down the barest reminder about it on that pad and go back to working on the task.

I don't know whether it is related, but I also took up journalling, aka morning pages, around the same time.

The key thing being both the pad for jotting things down and the journalling are done with pen and paper. As much as possible I get away from the computer and work/think/write where there are no screens.

reify 2 years ago |

Mindfulness

Being in the moment means exactly that.

We cannot change the past and we cannot know what the future holds

Those who live in the past or live in the future are just dead people who miss all the worldly wonders.

You say:

"my mind starts buzzing with reminders of other tasks clamoring for attention – emails to send, ideas to jot down, and various errands to tackle"

"Even with ToDo list or app, I have to remember to put into the list"

you complete a list, your mind remembers. you create ideas; your mind remembers.

how can your mind switch off if you fill it with all that useless stuff.

Let it go! none of this is important.

Your mind is telling you something is wrong, Listen!.

romerocarlos 2 years ago |

Distraction is a common challenge that many people face. There are several reasons behind why you might be feeling distracted, such as multitasking, environmental factors, or even underlying stress or anxiety. A formula I usually apply is defining what I want to achieve and dividing it into smaller, more manageable tasks. This helps me stay focused and gives me a sense of accomplishment as I complete each step. I hope this formula also works for you.

tony-allan 2 years ago |

If you have a lot on your mind, write down whatever is buzzing in your brain and read it after you have finished your focused activity.

For me I write stuff down just before the activity and review it just after you have finished the activity.

Maintaining a todo list all the time doesn’t work for me because I forget add, remove and review items on the list.

Also works is sleep is your goal.

treme 2 years ago |

you probably have adhd. stimulant meds happen to be very effective for majority of patients.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_tpB-B8BXk0

sharpshadow 2 years ago |

Are you working from home?