Welp, most of us on HN are out of the running! ;)
But in all seriousness, am I the only one that thinks this is just ridiculous? It would have been funny and one thing had it been a joke, but this just seems crazy to me. Maybe it's because I'm only 23 and I'm not that "desperate". Or maybe it's cause I'm very social and rarely have troubles finding dates or new people to meet, but I just can't imagine ever trying to get an actual date or make a real connection with someone from an absurd list of demands/requirements like this.
Plus, using github in this way just annoys me a bit. There are plenty of free dating sites out there (Okcupid, for example) where you could find mates that meet your "needs" or are compatible with you. Using github like this (again, if it was a joke, that would be one thing) just screams "I'm desperate" or "I want attention for using github to find a date." Github has drink-ups and meet-ups if you want to meet other people on there or similar to you, as well!
It's because you're not a single Japanese woman living in Japan who's in her 30s. She's likely facing enormous pressure from her family and friends to get married.
In Japan, women's marriageability is often compared to Christmas cake - expired after 25.
http://www.conniewonnie.com/2012/09/single-girl-asian-daught...
Not all people are as blunt about it as this women.
What's always funny about these lists is that they are only based on your previous experience and are not necessarily real predictors of future success.
If anything a good catch is someone who you want to be with despite the fact they don't score well on your list of requirements.
I've always thought OK Cupid had one of the more interesting matching algorithms because they ask the users questions to get an idea of them, and let people rank how important a match on specific questions are to them. eg: religion (or lack of) are very important to some people, and not as much to others.
I couldn't agree more. In any form, finding someone via a list of demands/requirements is such a close minded approach to finding someone to be happy with.
Right on. I read about a social experiment (I think it was "Blink" or similar book) where before going on speed dating sessions people filled out a questionnaire prioritizing the requirements that they wanted in their ideal mate. After speed dating they ranked their dates and itemized their features.
It turns out that there was no correlation between what the subjects wanted or thought they want a priori and the features of the people they liked the most. When asked about this they just rationalized matching the contradictory data (they adjusted the people they liked to the old values or adapted the values to the people they liked, don't remember).
Probably the same reason and the same problems as with the stereotypical bullet-point-list job requirements.
I'm 25 and I find this cute. That's assuming, of course, that the funny list of 'requirements' is mostly to spark discussion rather than actually weeding out people by following them to the letter.
"Sorry, you only meet 26 of the points, and that's counting your dubious credentials for the Peter Drucket one." -- Hopefully not. "Hey, that project X from your Github is pretty neat. Did you consider using technology Y for Z in it?" -- Maybe.
I don't know a lot about Japanese culture but here in the UK the 'jumping into bed with everyone just to see what works' phase seems to be over by her age (30). Or maybe it's just me...
If it works for her, great. Fabulous. Fantastic.
Everyone's life is their own.
There's also the problem of women getting hundreds of messages so even well written ones will rarely get a response. Not to mention people setting up fake profiles etc.
It's not that unusual in my experience for people who "met online" to have met through forums etc based on a mutual interest rather than a dedicated dating website.
Imagine posting that requirement about writing beautiful code on a dating site-- how very few bachelors would even know what means
Is this a more common thing with Japanese women, do they go into dating with a very specific set of criteria rather than "winging it" as western women would?
"Someone who plays at most only 1 hour of videogames a day, or at most only 30 minutes of TV."
Most good TV shows are at least an hour long per episode, I assume you have to split them over 2 days.
I find many western women are quite specific also, and men too. Treating potential mates as a checklist instead of unique individuals seems to be a global problem.
When I look at female profiles on dating websites, I see western women say vague things like "I want a caring guy with a good sense of humour who knows how to treat a lady".
Whereas from asian women I see things more like "Between ages X and Y , minimum salary Z , must enjoy A, B and C".
I'm sure some western women have similar requirements but perhaps it is just more taboo to articulate them.
Some of the stuff on here seems very specific though, but I guess some of it must be somewhat tongue in cheek.
I interpreted it as "someone who doesn't ignore me".
Rather ironic point given that she works at a game company.
Also, would it have made to betabeat if it was posted by a guy, instead of a girl?
Normally women keep this sort of list as a secret hidden agenda which we're meant to guess. Nice to see some transparency. ;-)
Of course, it's a completely different thing to do that as an exercise for yourself compared to actually publishing it on a social developer site, but to each their own I guess.
The thought that just because the mate watches an hour of tv a day instead of the required half hour she would never be interested is horrible to me. This kind of thinking would reduce the act of dating down to just meeting up for five minutes, filling out questionaires and comparing them.
No sudo for you on Ammonite I'm afraid...
It's always hilarious when women say this, are you saying that somebody with severe disfigurations and scars or someone is morbidly obese would not affect the decision at all?
Twitch.
Isn't that the entire idea behind OkCupid? That seems quite successful.
Disclaimer: I have Asian parents.