Show HN: Curate and Nurture a Friend Roster

Show HN: Curate and Nurture a Friend Roster(apps.apple.com)

1 points by morelandjs 5 days ago | 2 comments

I built Chumlord, a little iOS app to help me stay in touch with the people I care about. Set a catchup cadence for each friend, and it shows you who you’re overdue to reach out to. No accounts, no data collection, just open it to check the health of your friend roster!

The app is technically trivial, but withering social circles is a topic I see routinely discussed on HN, and I decided I wanted to take a stab at giving the problem a physical form and a tool to shape it. Been using this for a week now, and I really like it!

https://apps.apple.com/us/app/chumlord/id6767711584

qtcapybara 5 days ago |

Interesting! But I don't understand the use. If there's someone I want to stay in touch with, I will do it despite the catchup frequency. Do help me know anything I'm missing.

morelandjs 5 days ago | |

There’s nothing wrong with that and perhaps this isn’t useful for you. Reflecting on my own socialization, some of it is spontaneous and some of it is “it’s been a while since I’ve seen so and so, I should reach out”. This app is more for the latter.

It’s also a good ledger of exactly how much I socialize and with whom. Often I find that I think I hangout with certain friends more than I do, and this helps me confront the reality that I need to put in more effort.

To be clear the catchup frequency is not meant to promote “hangout every X days” but rather to encourage me to be more mindful with who I hangout with and how often (roughly).