Please only do this if you believe (or are willing to explore or at least quickly reject and leave) what the church is teaching.

As community organizations I think Churches seem at least somewhat decent. If only we could keep the community stuff without the religious stuff.

I dunno. I think we need (free / community funded) third spaces to make a big comeback. Where do people even go to meet anyone now?

I have a counselor suggesting I go try out tech conferences and meetups, but those have always felt like career building activities to me, not social activities. It's not the same at all.

I feel like I can't put enough disclaimers on this though: actively searching for a community/identity/place to fit-in is a pretty vulnerable place to be and there are organizations (e.g. cults) that actively take advantage of that.

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The good thing is that most healthy activities feel good to do, so they're self-perpetuating. They don't give the instant shot of dopamine as unhealthy activities but they do give you something. Furthermore, they feed into each other. Doing one habit makes the resistance to starting another less.

Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs listed physical and social health, among other things, as prequisites for a happy healthy life in 1943.

> It was satisfaction in their relationships, particularly in their marriages, that was the best predictor of a happy and healthy life.

Good marriages is probably the 80. If you nailed that you've won.

Words to live by!