Ask HN: Does your life have a purpose?

5 points by baconface 12 years ago | 12 comments

Have you always felt that you had a purpose in life, and regardless of what happens, that conviction never changes even though you don't know exactly what that purpose is?

Did you ever have to make a seemingly selfish decision that hurt someone close to you in order to achieve the focus/freedom necessary to fulfill your purpose?

Context is that I feel I have a binary decision in life right now:

- Simple & safe family life that yields happiness

- Difficult & lonely life that yields self actualization and "making difference"

drothlis 12 years ago |

3. Simple & safe family life that yields happiness and the supportive environment and mental health necessary to complete long-term projects.

4. Difficult & lonely life that leads to depression and not achieving anything at all.

gyardley 12 years ago |

Using an unknown 'purpose' to justify being a selfish jerk to someone won't make you any less of a selfish jerk.

If you really want to be a jerk to someone, stop looking for ways to justify it to yourself and just go own your actions - go be your jerky self.

I've personally regretted this every time I've done this (and I've done it more than once), but maybe you're wired differently than me.

kohanz 12 years ago |

IMHO, it's naive to imply that a family life and "making a difference" are mutually exclusive.

csixty4 12 years ago | |

Indeed. It's our family life that allows my wife & I to go the extra mile when needed because the other is able to jump in & take care of all the chores & such.

aviraldg 12 years ago |

> Have you always felt that you had a purpose in life, and regardless of what happens, that conviction never changes even though you don't know exactly what that purpose is?

Nothing in life is absolute.

> Did you ever have to make a seemingly selfish decision that hurt someone close to you in order to achieve the focus/freedom necessary to fulfill your purpose?

Yes.

The right way to approach this is to have an excellent #1 which you can fall back on if you're having trouble with #2.

dave_sid 12 years ago |

I think both of those options are really about yielding happiness. The first option seems a hell of a lot safer and the second one seems a little uncertain. If it's happiness you're after, then you're more likely to find it in the company of others, than you will in isolation.

lostdog 12 years ago |

This letter by Feynman may help clarify your search for purpose: http://genius.cat-v.org/richard-feynman/writtings/letters/pr...

shire 12 years ago |

You're young don't think about it so much, just enjoy life and be happy you could be dead tomorrow. Sometimes you just have to be grateful for everything in life. Watch Steve Jobs commencement video maybe that will shine light into your life.

PencilAndPaper 12 years ago |

I think very few people truly do great things all on their own. Go the social happy route. You cant make a difference if you cant connect with people.

alecbibat 12 years ago |

Are you young? We tend to be much more idealistic when we're younger.

Why do you feel like there are only those two decisions?

baconface 12 years ago | |

I'm in my late 20s.

I feel there are only 2 decisions because 1) I've felt the unparalleled creative power of controlled, maniacal dedication and 2) I may suffer from typical cognitive distortions despite reasonable achievement and lots of introspection

khyryk 12 years ago |

I don't believe in such a thing as purpose unless one uses it as a substitute for some state of mind.