Is it okay to ask how many women are on the team I'd be working with?(workplace.stackexchange.com) |
Is it okay to ask how many women are on the team I'd be working with?(workplace.stackexchange.com) |
So I'd say yes, it's okay to ask.
Protip to men: if you find yourself being reflexively defensive whenever you have to think about gender equality in this industry, you're part of the problem.
I don't think I'm the only one who can't understand what you are trying to say. Could you carefully explain your thoughts in detail, making your assumptions and values more explicit?
It was plainly made to imply that the asker is being somehow unreasonable for even caring about the question at all.
Yes, I have given it the same thought as `gender equality in kindergarten`, `gender equality in prostitution` and `gender equality in the military`.
> you're part of the problem
People who keep insisting that tech needs women are part of a problem that's for sure.
As far as I know anybody has the chance to sit down and code, last time I checked women were not banned from coding.
On the flip side, I've never asked that when interviewing for a position myself, though I've always been curious; I just assumed that asking would blow my chances of getting the job. I've always assumed that the team would probably be all male. And that it could be OK for me either way, depending on the personalities and attitudes of the team.
Could you explain why?
I became curious after timr pointed out a comment asking about this.
That's quite a mental/emotion drain that males on all/predominantly male teams don't face - at least regarding their gender. And since all/predominantly female teams are rare in tech, it's a situation that male techies will rarely, if ever face, or even need to contemplate - at least regarding their gender.
So, I would be curious because I would wonder if I might encounter sexism on the team - sexism at a level that would drain/distract me. Well, I never let it distract me, but it was certainly draining.
There are million other ways to give somebody a hard time. There are people who just want to be assholes, they can accomplish that even if you are white male.
> So, I would be curious because I would wonder if I might encounter sexism on the team - sexism at a level that would drain/distract me. Well, I never let it distract me, but it was certainly draining.
What about sexism from women towards men? is that okay?
In any case, I'll ask again - could you lay out your reasoning in more detail? I really can't figure out how you determined this implication of the question, what "the problem" (as you perceive it to be) is or why you believe it was "defensive".