Thoughts to consider:

1. What would it look like if you were not lonely?

2. Consider there are 7b+ people out there. Whatever style of friend or companion you are looking for, it exists.

3. Your goal is to be alone without feeling lonely. If you feel lonely perhaps that's your mind telling you that you actually don't want to be alone.

4. Imo, everyone needs a few people to confide in. Generally people know approx 50-100 people, but there are layers. On the inner most layer most people only have 2-3 people they consistently confide in. So you likely don't need many to be satisfied.

5. Relationships come down to proximity, frequency, and intimacy of information sharing. Without these three components you won't feel connected to someone. You can't skip a step and fake it.

6. Unfortunately our society is optimized for efficiency of the production of goods and allocation of capital, which doesn't include any of our happiness.

7. Read old books. Books that passed the Lindy effect (test of time). There's plenty of wisdom in them that will give you comfort will fuller perspective and understanding of human nature and society. A few are Tao de Ching, Meditations, The Republic.

8. There are two ways to solve problems: planning and leaning into mystery. Some people only consider the first option. However doing unplanned things with unpredictable outcomes can lead to the emergence of amazing things. Seek new environments, enjoy exploring them, and don't anticipate how they will give you what you need. You may be surprised.

9. You may already have the people you need around you without realizing it.

10. If you want to be alone, maybe embrace it with a retreat or seminary for a few weeks. May clear your mind and reveal something.

11. Last one since this is getting long. Generaly the formula for a person's happiness is good food, good sleep, good exercise, few good companions, and something in the future to look forward to. If someone checks those boxes usually they are good.

Wish you all the best in your journey. I'm sure this detour will take you somewhere exciting around the corner.

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